I Still Love Amy - The Book
A personal narrative exploring manipulation, trauma, and the emotional impacts of narcissistic relationships.
J.P. Therapist
"The difference between this and other books is that the reader can see through the eyes of the victim.
Lee tells us how he is feeling, what he is thinking and what he can see. Through this experience, we can, for instance, understand how a trauma bond is built .
The push and pull of positive and negative reinforcement and the use of gas lighting, leaves Lee dependent and loyal to Amy despite the abuse he is going through.
Its so important for friends, family and even the police to understand why victims find it hard to leave, what keeps them tethered to the abuser and why they stay silent for so long. And finally, what you can do to break the cycle of abuse and live again. "
"I Still Love Amy," is a personal narrative about narcissistic abuse, not a self-help guide. It details the author's experiences with manipulation, control, love bombing, devaluation, and trauma bonds.
The book explores the emotional impact on victims, their thought processes, and the challenges in leaving. It looks at narcissistic traits and behaviours, and the dynamics of the "game" narcissists play, and the authors complex relationship with Amy.
The book also offers practical tips on leaving, and explores the aftermath including the loneliness after leaving.
Understanding Narcissistic Abuse
& Why Victims Struggle to Leave
Frequently asked questions
Why did Lee write the book?
"I wrote this book to shed light on my personal experience of narcissistic abuse and to offer clarity to others who may be feeling lost in similar situations. During my ordeal, I sensed something was wrong, but I struggled to identify the nature of the abuse. The available literature often felt too clinical or checkbox-driven, making it difficult for me to relate to the scenarios described.
In this book, I share specific examples of verbal abuse I endured, followed by explanations of how those behaviour's align with narcissistic abuse. My goal is to help victims recognize these patterns, understand what they are experiencing, and ultimately empower them to move on without guilt or embarrassment. I hope to provide the insights and support that I wished I had during my own journey"
What kind on abuse is covered in the book?
The book explores various forms of narcissistic abuse including manipulation, verbal abuse, gaslighting, love bombing, devaluation, and the creation of trauma bonds.
If the Author Is Not a Professional, How Can They Offer Advice?
"While I may not be a professional in the field of psychology or counselling, my insights are rooted in my personal journey through narcissistic abuse. My experiences have given me a unique perspective that goes beyond theoretical knowledge. I understand the emotional turmoil, confusion, and isolation that victims often face because I've lived it.
This book is not intended to replace professional advice, rather it serves as a companion for those navigating similar struggles. By sharing my story and the lessons I've learned, I aim to provide relatable insights and practical guidance that can resonate with others. My hope is that through my narrative, readers can find validation, support, and encouragement as they work towards healing and reclaiming their lives."
Can a narcissist change?
The book implies that narcissists are unlikely to change, as they often do not recognize that they have a problem. The focus should be on the victim recognising they are in a cycle of abuse, and taking steps to leave, as they are the only ones that can change the situation.
Is it possible to contact Lee?
Yes! please use social media or the contact section.
Did Lee Seek Therapy?
"Yes, I sought therapy and can confidently say that I couldn't have navigated my journey without it. The support from my family and a qualified therapist was crucial in helping me heal. It's essential not to go through this process in isolation. Victims of narcissistic abuse often find themselves withdrawing due to feelings of mistrust, stemming from gaslighting experiences. This can lead to a sense of isolation where it becomes challenging to trust others—or even oneself.
Finding the courage to seek therapy is a vital step toward recovery. I encourage anyone struggling to reach out for help, whether through a therapist or by speaking with a GP for a referral. On this website, you'll find contact details for various therapists, including my own therapist, Helen Sadler, who has been instrumental in my healing process. Her information is available in the resources section to help guide you on your journey towards recovery."
Understanding Narcissistic Abuse
Explore personal narratives and insights on navigating the complexities of narcissistic relationships.
Author's Personal Journey
Discover the author's experiences with manipulation, control, and emotional trauma in relationships.
Practical Tips Offered
Learn effective strategies for leaving toxic relationships and coping with the aftermath.
Gain insights into emotional impact and challenges faced by victims of narcissistic abuse.
Explore Emotional Dynamics
"I couldn't put the book down! The way Lee describes the complexities of his abuse is both heart breaking and uplifting. The analysis of the manipulative behaviours really helped me understand my own experiences with a narcissist. I really appreciated the honesty and the resources in the book. "
Sarah J.
★★★★★
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